Sunday, August 2, 2009

Servant- Friend- Bride?

I knew there would come a day when I would share what I am fixing to write. I have been studying the Word of God for over 20 years and have set under a lot of good teaching and taken a few Bible courses but I would be the first to admit that I am by no means a theology scholar nor do I claim to have attained all knowledge and understanding. I do believe that there will come a day when I will fully understand and that day will be when I meet my Lord Jesus face to face, then all things will be known. As I said I have set under some good teaching but the best teacher I have ever had has been the Holy Spirit. As I have set in prayer and study of God's Word, I have asked the Holy Spirit to reveal/unveil a deeper understanding of God's Word to me. An understanding which can only be attained spiritually and not intellectually. I believe that the Holy Spirit is our teacher. If we sincerely ask Him for a deeper/spiritual understanding of God's Word He will grant that to us, because Jesus said, "He will lead us in all truth". At times we need not even to ask, for He will unveil deeper revelation to us to help us along life's path. With that said, I realize that there are many of you that have studied, and I'm sure that the Holy Spirit has revealed His truths to you also.

What I'm about to reveal, some of you may disagree with. But that's alright, I believe that many of us are on different levels of the mountain of God, but we are all on the mountain of God. I do know this, that if what I am about to write is not right, my Lord is merciful, full of grace and will not hold this against me, because He knows my only intentions are to stir others to a burning desire to know Him and have a more intimate and personal relationship with Him. This is my passion and my heart's desire for myself. If anything, I believe that the Lord could possibly commend me for my heart's desire in doing this. So with no further ado, here it goes:

In the post before this one I had made mention of the Bride being taken, caught up/raptured and others being left that wasn't the Bride. I had presented the question for each to ask themselves if they believe they are the Bride or not. I also stated that a Bride will be more than just a servant and or a friend, and now I would like to expound on that particular statement a little more. Also I would like to note that I did revise and update my previous post so that what I am trying to convey could be better understood. Now onward with the difference between servants, friends and brides.


A servant loves his master and enjoys his role of serving but he is not privy to his lord's personal life and his doings. For example, a servant's role is to serve and not become personally acquainted with the one he is serving. He goes when the master says go and comes when the master says come. You see the master will spend time but he tells the servant what to do. The other things the servant does is because he is loyal and does the things he has already been commanded to do. We choose to be servants of the master. For as a man thinketh in his heart so is he and out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh. (something to think about).
Luke 12: 36-38 (36) And ye yourselves like unto men that wait for their lord, when he will RETURN from the wedding; that when he cometh and knocketh, they may open unto him immediately. (37) Blessed are those SERVANTS, whom the lord when he cometh shall find watching: verily I say unto you, that he shall gird himself, and make them to sit down to meat, and will come forth and serve them (38) And if he shall come in the second watch, or come in the third watch, and find them so, blessed are those SERVANTS.


A friend on the other hand will know the servant's master as his friend. Their relationship will be on a higher level. They will spend time together say golfing, dining, traveling or just sitting talking to one another about their hopes and dreams and business deals. The friend asking the other for advise on sensitive issues knowing he can fully trust him. The master would not speak to a servant like this. The friend will come and go and each time the friend comes they will spend time communing and enjoying each other's company. There will be laughter and joy and gladness and maybe a few tears when the friend comes to visit. The friends will have a deeper love for each other. The friend longs for the arrival of the servant's master insomuch as to cry out when he arrives, because he has been watching and waiting for him.
We choose to be the friend of the servant's master. For as a man thinketh in his heart so is he and out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh (something to think about).

Here are some scriptures to take a look at in (Jn. 15:13-15) Jesus says that: Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends. (14) You are my friend IF you do whatsoever I command you. (15) Henceforth I call you not servants; for the servant knoweth not what his lord doeth: but I have called you friends; for all things that I have heard of my Father I have made known unto you.

Jesus considers all of us His friends because He laid down His life for us all, but the question is, do we consider Jesus our friend? The disciples did of course, but not everyone considers Jesus their friend. In fact, He is hated by so many for no apparent cause. "But," If you are someone who considers Jesus your friend then you will take great joy spending the time in relationship with Him. Listening to the things that He has made known to you and will gladly do as he tells you to do.

I am only giving a few scriptures that correlate the difference. There are many in the Word, so please pray and study the scriptures asking the Holy Spirit of Truth to give you spiritual understanding. So that you can consume and feast on the delicacies of scripture. Just as your body needs food to survive, you need to be fed the Word by the Holy Spirit so that your spirit man can survive. That way you will appreciate the tasteful joys of the Word more.

(Hosea 2:16) And it shall be at that day, saith the Lord, that thou shall call me Ishi (husband) and shalt call me no more Baali (master). In a marriage arrangement the bride understands the love her husband has for her. That he will give his life for her. He will provide for her. Protect her from the evils of the world. He will never leave her or forsake her for any reason. He will love her with an unconditional love. She then seeing that her husband gives all these things will reciprocate that love back to her husband. She will enjoy serving him and communing with him as her best friend and she will shower her husband with great love and adoration. In other words the bride will have a heart that pours forth with thanksgiving, great praise, and worship, for the one she loves (the Bride is all three, servant, friend and bride). The song of Solomon reflects how the husband and wife relate to one another. His eyes are for her and her eyes are for him. It is also a prophetic of how the Lord feels about us. If there were a house on fire the husbands would get their bride out first and then go back for others. Joe told me a story about a man who was married and he (the husband) and his wife and son were at home, and In the middle of the night the house caught on fire. The man was sleeping with his wife, and the son in the next room, he saved himself by escaping the burning house but left his wife and child in the fire. See this man loved himself more than his wife and son. Would you say he was a good husband. This is not what we as a bride are looking for in a husband. Which leads us to the point of the taking away or being caught up or rapture.
We choose to be the Bride. For as a man thinketh in his heart so is he and out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh. (something to think about)

I believe there is going to be a taking away of the Bride first, and then Christ will return after that to gather His servants to take part in the wedding feast of the lamb. Here is my scripture for that statement (Luke 12: 35-40) (35)Let your loins be girded about, and your lights burning; (36) And ye yourselves like unto men that wait for their lord, when he will RETURN from the wedding; that when he cometh and knocketh, they may open unto him immediately. (37) Blessed are those SERVANTS, whom the lord when he cometh shall find watching: verily I say unto you, that he shall gird himself, and make them sit down to meat and will come forth to serve them.(38) and if he should come in the second watch, or come in the third watch, and find them so, blessed are those SERVANTS. (39) And this know, that if the goodman of the house had known what hour the thief would come, he would have watched, and not have suffered his house to be broken through. (40) Be ye therefore ready also: for the Son of man cometh at an hour when ye think not. Did you catch the word RETURN in verse 36, there has already been a wedding and now He is returning from the wedding and comes knocking to gather those servants who are ready and watching. But wait, where is the friend in all of this you might ask, okay let us go on to (John 3:28-29) John the Baptist is speaking and says in verse (28) Ye yourselves bear witness, that I said, I am not the Christ, but that I am sent before him (29) He that hath the bride is the bridegroom: but the friend of the bridegroom, which standeth and heareth him, rejoiceth greatly because of the bridegrooms voice: this my joy therfore is fulfilled. If you do a study on the Jewish wedding and how it correlates with the Bride (the one church) and the Bridegroom (Jesus Christ) you will understand the job of the friend of the Bridegroom as well as what part the servants play. In the Jewish wedding the friend of the Bridegroom stands outside the door of the Bride and Grooms chamber and listens intently waiting to hear the voice of the Bridegroom saying that "He is coming out" and when the friend hears these words of the Bridegroom He will proclaim with a great shout that the "Bridegroom is coming" and all those servants who hear the call and are ready will be the ones that are not taken unawares because they are waiting for His return, and will be welcomed to the wedding feast of the Lamb. In other words they are the ones that will be at the reception to celebrate in the marriage feast of the Lamb. They are invited to celebrate with the Bridegroom and Bride at the wedding feast.

I know that there are probably some of you still wondering more about who the Bride is huh? Well now let us go to the 7 churches in Revelation chapter 2 and 3 this is a very interesting study because if each individual will do an honest examination of their heart they will see themselves in one of these churches. All true Christians are a part of the body of Christ and thus their bodies are the temple of God which makes us the church right?

My belief is that only one of these churches is the actual Bride of Christ..... and I believe that the other churches are the friends and the servants but I will allow you to do that study and make a conclusion for yourself. I would like to add that there is only two out of the seven churches that Jesus holds nothing against and one of them I believe is the Bride of Christ (could this be the remnant) just something to think about. The other churches He tells to repent of some things because He is going to come back for them, "but" they must repent and be ready. Those that have repented will not be caught unawares and they will be anticipating the shout of the friend of the Bridegroom proclaiming that He is coming. When they hear the shout they will rejoice because they know that they will be able to partake in the wedding feast and forever be with Him. They have been given the invitation! Jesus came knocking and the door was opened and they are ready and clothed in the Kings wedding garments (clothed in a robe of righteousness in Christ Jesus) and ready to celebrate... It's party time for them!

But those that never repented are the names removed from the guest list of the wedding feast of the Lamb for they do not have the King's wedding garment on and thus they will be put out. Here is the Scriptures to back that statement (Mt. 22:11-14) as to understand this better. (11)And when the king came in to see the guests, he saw there a man which had not on a wedding garment: (12) And he saith unto him, Friend, how camest thou in hither not having a wedding garment? And he was speechless. (13) Then said the king to the servants, Bind him hand and foot, and take him away, and cast him into outer darkness; there shall be weeping and gnashing of teeth. (14) For many are called, but few are chosen.

Did you catch that? the king referred to him as Friend but the guest had chose not to be a friend of the king, and how do I know this you might ask, because the guest chose not to put on the king's wedding garment. The guest was called but because he chose not to repent there was no wedding garment for him. He chose not to honor and obey the King and therefore he had not the kings robe of righteousness to cover himself. All those that are the Kings will stand clothed in His righteousness for we are only made righteous in Christ Jesus for our own righteousness is as filthy rags (arrogance and pride will wear a robe of self righteousness). Another good example of an unrighteous servant is found in (Mt. 25:14-30) the talents and the unprofitable servant: A false fear of his lord caused the unprofitable servant to disobey his lord's instructions. Many will read this particular parable and feel sorry for the servant. But I submit to you to not feel sorry for this servant because he passed judgment and falsely accused his lord of something that he wasn't. The statement about his lord being a hard man and reaping where he sows not was not a truth. Out of his own false fear came false accusations about his lord. His lord's reply in modern day English I believe would sound something like this: "If that is the kind of person that you say I am then so be it I will give unto you as you say" and thus the unprofitable servant was cast into outer darkness: there shall be weeping and gnashing of teeth. We know that this lord was a good and loving man because he had given the talents to his servants as a gift and what they reaped he gave to them to keep. You have heard it said that fear is the opposite of faith and you see faith is what pleases God and perfect love casts out all fear, this servant evidently didn't have a perfect love for his lord.
(to know him is to love him to love him is to know him).

There are also many today and even in the church that will profess to be a Christian (2Thess. 2) but because they loved darkness and hated the Light they never welcomed the Holy Spirit of Truth. They loved the world and it's sinful pleasures more. So because of this God caused them to believe a lie. So at the day of judgement they will have no excuse and BTW these are the ones who are a part of the great falling away/apostasy before the revealing of the anti-christ. Those who do not welcome the Holy Spirit of Truth are plenteous in this world and sadly even in the church and many are falling way to this very day.

I want to clarify that what I believe is that there is the Bride, there is the Friend and there is the Servant, and I believe that you make your own choice on which you will be. Note that all three will be taken but I believe that it will be at different watches. Remember what Jesus said in (Luke 12:38) And if he shall come in the second watch, or come in the third watch, and find them so, blessed are those servants.

Could this be... is it possible that the Lord Jesus could come in different watches for different ones (Bride, Friend, Servant)? I believe that there is, but maybe this is something that some might need to think about and study for themselves.


Nitewrit said...


Wow, you have given us much to consider. I'd have to take some time to fully understand what you are saying and study it more before making any real comments.

Larry E.

Tamela's Place said...

Yes, i understand Larry, this would be the longest post i have ever written. But i am soo glad that you are honest and i know without doubt that you are one who searches the scriptures for himself. To show yourself approved of God a workman that needeth not to be ashamed but rightly dividing the Word of God.. The Holy Spirit teaches you this I know without doubt... :)

Warren Baldwin said...

I agree with Larry, there is a lot here! I don't know if there is this strict distinctin b/n servants, friends and the bride. I would see all three as descriptive of the saved.

In the verse you cited where he says, "Friend ...", I think that is more of a courteous address than categorizing someone based on his level of faith or obedience. In JOhn 15:14 Jesus calls the apostles friends. They were also servants and certainly they were part of the bride of Christ.

Interesting post. Plenty here to think about!

Gigi said...

Oh my goodness have you given me a lot to think about...pray about. Before I begin my quiet time, I always ask for the Holy Spirit to be with me and help me with my understanding. I will have to ask for a double portion as I go back and study the verses you've given in your post. Thank you for always challenging me to grow in my knowledge of His Word...

Tamela's Place said...

Hello warren,

Thanks for commenting. Yes they are all saved and they all will be taken. But the crux of this post was personal relationship, there are some that have a closer walk with Christ Jesus than others and i truly believe that this matters when it comes to when you are taken out. Even the Bible says that for the elect's sake those days will be shortened. Also the church of Philadelphia in Rev. is the only church that Jesus says that He will keep from that hour of testing, it seems as tho some of the other churches are going to have to go thru more than others, but it doesn't mean they are not saved and won't be taken out at some point. A fascinating study is the 7 churches and what Jesus spoke to all of them. Also the Jewish wedding is an awesome study within itself. If you have never look into that i would encourage you to, i know you would enjoy it tremendously. The insights you gave about the friend is exactly why i brought that up! Jesus considers all of us as his friend (as i stated in the post) and will address us as such, but not all consider Jesus their friend, he is only a master to some and that is all, someone they serve, but i am not saying that they are not saved and won't be taken they indeed will. Again it is about personal relationship.

Tamela's Place said...

Hello gigi,

I am like that myself i love a challenge especially when it comes to the study of God's Word i enjoy it thoroughly it is good food for the soul.

As i told warren a great study is the 7 churches and what Jesus spoke to each one and also the Jewish wedding is an awesome study it is one the best studies that i have ever done and i know anyone would enjoy it thoroughly :)

Gigi said...

Morning Tamela! My church offers a year-long study of the Book of Revelation. In the second semester, I studied the 7 churches...and you're right - it was a fabulous study!

Rachel said...

umm interesting thoughts. . . thanks for sharing because it encourages us to keep our eyes and ears open to His instruction!


Jody said...

I haven't taken the time to read this post thouroughly but will come back to it. I have to say you are a diligent student of God's Word. Press on.

thekingpin68 said...

'There are also many today and even in the church that will profess to be a Christian (2Thess. 2) but because they loved darkness and hated the Light they never welcomed the Holy Spirit of Truth. They loved the world and it's sinful pleasures more. So because of this God caused them to believe a lie.'

There are false Christian churches where people are not regenerated by God's Spirit and believe in core spiritual lies.

There are also those within (that attend) the true Church that are not Christians.

In grace as true believers may we be obedient to God and Christ.

Cheers, Tamela.


Andrew Clarke said...

Like you say, there are different roles taken by God, though all part of the Trinity. The God who rebukes the wickedness of the Jews in Old Testament accounts is one with the Jesus who washed His disciples' feet, though taking different roles in each situation. It is a huge relief to see the merciful side of God in Jesus, since the angry God (though quite right in His judgements) can be quite terrifying.

Tamela's Place said...

Thank you for visiting Rachel and may be keep our eyes and ears open to His return... God bless you

Tamela's Place said...

Thank you Jody for the compliment.. I truly love studying God's word. It is life :)

God bless you!

Tamela's Place said...

Yes and Amen Russ and may we always welcome His Holy Spirit of Truth... God bless you :)Thanks for your comment!

Tamela's Place said...


You make a very good point! thanks for commenting and God bless you!

capturedbygod said...

Wow, this is so deep, makes me think! :) I had never thought of it that way before, but I like it.

I realized that I got some of what you were saying when I wrote my post on Tuesday this week. ( ) I was so mad at God then for everything we are going through. He finally softened my heart and convinced me to be his "friend". It was all I could manage at that point. And it was a relief and pleasure to be at peace with Him again, at least in that level of relationship. I enjoyed knowing He was with me and working with me: my Friend.

But since then He has continued to work in me to woo me back to a place of Bride, in a passionate love relationship with Him. But I thought it was interesting that for that moment earlier, all I could manage was friend. And I thought of you when I was writing this.

I actually joked with God that He sure does put up with a lot because in effect I became "Bridezilla"! I went from this loving, sweet, adoring Bride to crazy, angry, attacking Bride, taking everything out on Him! lol :)

Anyway, thanks for your post! It was great! Love, Jenny

edwin joseph said...

This is too much of a revelation... :-)

It gave me desire to study the scriptures more and more..

Thanks thanks :-)

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Connie Arnold said...

Wow, some interesting and thought provoking things you have presented here! It's wonderful when the Holy Spirit provides some extra insight into scripture. Thank you for sharing what you have found and bringing out some good points that do make sense.

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Nitewrit said...

Hi, Tamela,

I am about to write my 15th post on Martha and Mary and it reminded me of your "Servant-Friend-Bride" post.

Within the three events concerning these sisters in Scripture, it is told how these three people (Martha, mary and their brother Lazarus) are beloved friends of Jesus.

So Martha and Mary are constant friends. Martha is continuously a servant serving, but doesn't seem to move beyond a servant role, while in a way Mary represents a "Bride" of Christ, as I think you will see when I do my next post.

Larry E.

jeleasure said...

You have written a lot in this post. To be honest, I did not read it all.
I just want to say, "yes". We are all on God's mountain. We saved and unsaved are all on a journey with God. This is where my analogy breaks down. I don't know how to describe this part. However, let me just say it like this;
'we all will finish the journey. God will chose between us. He will even chose among those who call themselves Christians. Tamela, you said we are on different levels. Yes, that is true. I wish I could recall the book and reference for what Paul says about some "preach Christ out of selfish ambition" (or something like that). And, then there are those to whom Jesus will say, I never knew you. He will separate the goats from the sheep. And, there will be goats who have been announcing themselves as sheep to whom Jesus will say, go away from me, I never knew you.
I really believe, people need to have more understanding in order for their relationship with God to be real.
That last line just gave me an idea for my next article.

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