Tuesday, July 26, 2011

Matrimony

We exhort you, who are a husband, to love your wife, even as you love yourself. Give honor to her as the more delicate vessel; respect the delicacy of her frame and the delicacy of her mind. Continue through life the same attention, the same manly tenderness which in youth gained her affections. Reflect that, though her bodily charms are decayed as she is advanced in age, yet that her mental charms are increased, and that, though novelty is worn off, yet that habit and a thousand acts of kindness have strengthened your mutual friendship. Devote yourself to her, and , after the hours of business, let the pleasures which you most highly prize be found in her society.
We exhort you, who are a wife, to be gentle and condescending to your husband. Let the influence which you possess over him arise from the mildness of your manners and the discretion of your conduct. Whilst you are careful to adorn your person with neat and clean apparel--for no woman can long preserve affection if she is negligent in this point--be still more attentive in ornamenting your mind with meekness and peace, with cheerfulness and good humor. Lighten the cares and chase away the vexations to which men, in their commerce with the world, are unavoidably exposed, by rendering his house pleasant to your husband. Keep at home, let your employment be domestic and your pleasures domestic.
To both husband and wife we say, "Preserve a strict guard over your tongues, that you never utter anything which is rude, contemptuous, or severe; and over your tempers, that you never appear sullen and morose. Endeavor to be perfect yourselves, but expect not too much from each other. If any offense arises, forgive it; and think not that a human being can be exempt from faults."
From the book: "The Royal Path of Life by T.L Haines 1876"

4 comments:

Larry, aka The Kid and The Old Goat said...

Tamela,

"Endeavor to be perfect yourselves, but expect not too much from each other. If any offense arises, forgive it; and think not that a human being can be exempt from faults."

That is not just good advice to married couples; that is good advice to the world at large. Unfortunately, I seem to see more and more people doing the very reverse. No one takes responsibility, but blames someone else; everyone takes offense easily and never forgive, and I would say this trait begins at the very top, certainly in this country.

Lar

Tamela's Place said...

i agree with you lar.. sad but true.This is not the way it should be especially in a country that was founded upon Christian principle. Those who remain true to their Christian Faith will continue in this--though it may be few.

thekingpin68 said...

This subject which preached on by a couple in church today from 1 Peter 3.

Teaching needed for the time.

Tamela's Place said...

agreed russ... too many merry and quickly divorce as if it's just the thing to do.. soo sad! A marriage takes work as we endeavor to know our partner more intimately while sacrificing our own selfish ways..

Tammy :)

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