Tuesday, July 26, 2011
We exhort you, who are a husband, to love your wife, even as you love yourself. Give honor to her as the more delicate vessel; respect the delicacy of her frame and the delicacy of her mind. Continue through life the same attention, the same manly tenderness which in youth gained her affections. Reflect that, though her bodily charms are decayed as she is advanced in age, yet that her mental charms are increased, and that, though novelty is worn off, yet that habit and a thousand acts of kindness have strengthened your mutual friendship. Devote yourself to her, and , after the hours of business, let the pleasures which you most highly prize be found in her society.
We exhort you, who are a wife, to be gentle and condescending to your husband. Let the influence which you possess over him arise from the mildness of your manners and the discretion of your conduct. Whilst you are careful to adorn your person with neat and clean apparel--for no woman can long preserve affection if she is negligent in this point--be still more attentive in ornamenting your mind with meekness and peace, with cheerfulness and good humor. Lighten the cares and chase away the vexations to which men, in their commerce with the world, are unavoidably exposed, by rendering his house pleasant to your husband. Keep at home, let your employment be domestic and your pleasures domestic.
To both husband and wife we say, "Preserve a strict guard over your tongues, that you never utter anything which is rude, contemptuous, or severe; and over your tempers, that you never appear sullen and morose. Endeavor to be perfect yourselves, but expect not too much from each other. If any offense arises, forgive it; and think not that a human being can be exempt from faults."
From the book: "The Royal Path of Life by T.L Haines 1876"
Wednesday, July 6, 2011
We cannot look upon marriage in the light in which many seem to regard it--merely as a convenient arrangement in society. To persons of benevolence, intelligence, and refinement, it must be something more--the source of the greatest possible happiness or of the most abject misery-- no half-way felicity. You have not had the folly to discard common sense. You have endeavored to study charitably and carefully the peculiarities of each other's habits, dispositions, and principles, and to anticipate somewhat the inconveniences to which they may lead. And as you are determined to outdo each other in making personal sacrifices, and to live by the spirit of the Savior, you have laid a foundation for happiness , which it is not likely will be shaken by the joys or sorrows, the prosperity or adversity, the riches or poverty, or by the frowns or flattery, of the world. If there is a place on earth to which vice has no entrance--where the gloomy passions have no empire--where pleasure and innocence live constantly together-- where cares and labors are delightful--where every pain is forgotten in reciprocal tenderness--where there is an equal enjoyment of the past, the present, and the future--it is the house of a wedded pair, but of a pair who, in wedlock, are lovers still.
From the book " The Royal Path of Life" by: T.L. Haines 1876